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fox in socks
09-16-2010, 04:04 PM
i figured id make this separate from the screaming kids thread. so we're at garden of the gods in colorado--a public park with interesting rock formations. many of the rock formations are fenced off with a picket fence.

so we're walking around and this little kid runs up to one of the fences and asks his parents "can i go in there" and the parents are like "yeah sure". nice. even better though the kid says "but theres a fence!" and the mom replies "thats okay"". ah a fabulous example of teaching your kids the rules dont apply to them. surely when little jimmy gets a dui, a trespassing citation, or expelled for cheating his parents will say "he didnt learn that from us". surely no.

Lágnætti
09-16-2010, 05:13 PM
even better though the kid says "but theres a fence!" and the mom replies "thats okay"".

The kid probably already suspects his parents are immensely stupid. That could actually pan out for the best.

Or maybe not.

Stumpy
09-17-2010, 09:05 PM
Maybe the parents are hoping the kid will impale itself.

Alizarin Crimson
09-23-2010, 01:03 AM
I firmly believe that my ex-husband formed his shitty, warped ideas of what a relationship is based on the bitter, twisted fights his parents used to have right in front of him :(

not to mention that they spoiled him rotten & he's a life-long thrill-seeker (and now convicted felon) thanks to their continual bailing him out over the formative years (I wish I'd known about that before I married him)...

cinny~lou
09-27-2010, 12:15 AM
^ Huh. Were we married to the same guy? (Minus the felon part.)

Chalk
08-04-2011, 07:13 PM
A gem, courtesy of Not Always Right (http://notalwaysright.com/spoiled-like-the-food-on-your-dirty-dishes/12896)
http://i54.tinypic.com/2dv2x6c.jpg

Lágnætti
08-04-2011, 07:27 PM
4 WHOLE DAYS WITHOUT A DISHWASHER. OMG, human rights abuse! Call the police!

Ffs, if you can't cope without a bloody dishwasher, just give up. There's little more effort involved in loading and unloading the things than actually doing dishes the old-fashioned way.

Spoiled, stupid people.

fullofwish
08-04-2011, 08:16 PM
If those kids had any smarts they'd say no dishwasher means takeaways for dinner!! ;)

MTC
04-10-2012, 03:38 AM
My neighbor has a hellion for a child. I think he's about 5 or 6. He's a brat. There's no two ways about it. Screams for no reason. Just stands outside and screams like he's being murdered. When he gets tired of that he wails on his younger siblings to make them scream. I've seen him throw rocks as old people and their pets. The parents apologize for his behavior but don't me HIM apologize.

"Stop that or you'll get a time out."
"Stop that or you'll get a time out."
"Stop that or you'll get a time out."
"Stop that or you'll get a time out."
"Stop that or you'll get a time out."
"Stop that or you'll get a time out."
"Stop that or you'll get a time out."

over and over but no actual time out given.

Recently he found a new game to play. Throw all my toys over the neighbor's wall! I came home one day to 10 plastic balls, a football, a basketball, a bat, a tee ball stand, a small rake, a shovel, and some other shit. Again I tossed them all back over to their side. The next day, some of the same crap over the wall. I bagged them up and was going to give the toys to a friend who has kids. Why? Because the Dad of said Hell Child was heard by my husband saying, "I'm sure the neighbors don't want your toys in their yard." Damn right Skippy, so why don't you collect them and get the kid to stop?

My husband thought we (I.E. - me) should talk to the neighbors first before giving their toys away. The conversation began with Hell Child running screaming to their door, "Someone's here! Someone's here! EeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeEEEEEeeEEEeeeeeEEEEEEEE!!!!" Mom opened the door and I ignored her and talked only to the boy. "Do you want these?" I asked, holding the bagged toys. Mom said yes. "Here's what's going to happen. If any more of your toys come over the wall, they are mine. I have glass objects on the other side of the wall that I don't want broken. If the toys land in my yard, they are mine. Are we clear?" The boy laughed and tried to slam the door on me. I pushed the door back open and asked, "Do you understand? The toys will be mine." He just stared at me. I repeated, "Are we clear? Do you understand?" I finally got a "yes" out of him.

Amazingly, no more toys have come over the wall until yesterday. Just one ball, which I put on our patio. Probably an accident and on Easter so I did what Jesus would do and tossed the ball back. After dark. After the dad peered over the fence and wall looking for it. Okay, maybe Jesus would have given it back right away but I did get around to it.

He's also cut back on the screaming.

I hate being the nasty neighbor, but what the hell am I supposed to do?

SweetPea
04-10-2012, 03:50 AM
You're response is/was much more calm and diplomatic that I would be after repeated times. After the first time or the child screaming in the yard and/or throwing rocks at people/pets I would have had a very stern talk with the parents and let them know that after this I would be calling the cops because if they can't control their children I will call someone who can.

I've been where you are and those children didn't stop at throwing rocks and toys... I eventually came home to an entire patio set sitting ON THE FENCE (they were 10 and 12 at this point) and they were throwing grapefruit (from the tree that hangs from our old yard into theirs) over the fence and into our pool. I eventually had to call the cops when they tossed their cat over our fence... like literally threw the cat over the fence in a big arch. Little fuckers. Turned out that the oldest had also kicked the dog and broken one of it's ribs.

Kids are bastards when given free reign.

Medusa
04-10-2012, 07:43 AM
I hate being the nasty neighbor, but what the hell am I supposed to do?

Exactly what you did do. The parents clearly aren't going to step up and handle the situation, so you're forced to.

So either you deal with that shit every day and clean up after them or you become a "jerk" who forces the issue.

This stuff drives me insane because I am constantly the "mean lady" in situations though I do legitimately like kids- I just don't like kids who are raised by sloppy parents.

A couple of weeks ago I was in line at a store when I kept feeling a tug on my purse, and looked down in time to see a little hand REACHING INTO my purse to grab at things. I leaned down and said "no, we don't put our hands in there and we don't touch things that do not belong to us."

"That's just how she likes to play! She's exploring!"
"She doesn't get to put her hand on another person's things, and you also have no idea what's in my purse- are you insane?"


Cue lots of :rolleyes: from mom and remarks to those around her about how SOME people just can't stand kids.

Surprisingly, not the first time I've had a kid messing around with my purse. I have a purse with a kind of cute pattern on it (elephant and umbrella appliques on one side), and while I obviously don't care if a kid points at it or even touches the appliques on the front, it's weird when that turns into "I'm going to put my hand in there and grab things!"

MTC
04-10-2012, 12:47 PM
The irony is that of ot comes to calling the cops, I need only see Hell Childs dad. Yep. He's a cop.

MTC
04-10-2012, 04:53 PM
The whole family sans dad was here where I work. It was total mayhem. The funny thing is, I didn't recognize them until mom said Hell Boy's name. I was annoyed that the kids were running around turning lights off and on, an attempt at a fire alarm pull waa made, etc.

Lágnætti
04-10-2012, 05:16 PM
The irony is that of ot comes to calling the cops, I need only see Hell Childs dad. Yep. He's a cop.

Actually, that doesn't surprise me. I've known a few children of policeman and they've all been spoiled petty criminals! Vandalism, shoplifting, shitting on people's cars (yes, trufax) you name it. All children of highly-paid, high-ranking policemen.

Anyway, you're not the nasty neighbour. They are the shitty family with the out-of-control, disgusting children and you are the decent person who has to suffer them. My sister has a similar incident to your last year and the police did get involved. The big fat spoilt noisy shitstain of a grandson of her neighbour threw all sorts of shit into their garden, eventually escalating into throwing tools into their porch and smashing the facing up. Spoilt Shitstain is always at Grandma's because Mummy can't cope with his spoilt shitstain ways and grandma is too dumb to say no, deal with your own child. Apparently Shitstain can't be in Mummy's house in the daytime during school holidays because he does similar things to what he did to my sister and her neighbours won't wear him being around anymore. Also, Mummy is too busy breeding cats or some such useless activity to actually parent her stupid son. He also apparently got caught trying to set fire to his grandfather's house at some point, after grandma and grandad got divorced. Lovely kid.

Anyway, the poilce were involved with the damage to my sister's property and Shitstain was brought to a meeting to say I Am Sorry, during which apparently he handed over a wad of cash to pay for the damages to my sister's property. Mummy said it was his 'holiday money' (it was more than I earn in two weeks) which shows you what a spoilt shitstain he really is. Anyway, this was his Big Punishment. Next time the police are pressing charges. There will be a next time, obviously, because nobody's yet hurt the stupid brat where he feels it. Clearly in a family where money flows like water, just having to hand over this week's dosh is no punishment at all.

Guybrush
04-11-2012, 10:36 AM
I hate being the nasty neighbor, but what the hell am I supposed to do?

Actually, I suspect the parents may be grateful that you did what you did. (Kudos for the way you handled the situation, too!)

Maybe you should consider selling your 'Have A Word With The Kid' services to your neighbours ;)

fox in socks
04-11-2012, 10:53 PM
Exactly what you did do. The parents clearly aren't going to step up and handle the situation, so you're forced to.

So either you deal with that shit every day and clean up after them or you become a "jerk" who forces the issue.

This stuff drives me insane because I am constantly the "mean lady" in situations though I do legitimately like kids- I just don't like kids who are raised by sloppy parents.

A couple of weeks ago I was in line at a store when I kept feeling a tug on my purse, and looked down in time to see a little hand REACHING INTO my purse to grab at things. I leaned down and said "no, we don't put our hands in there and we don't touch things that do not belong to us."

"That's just how she likes to play! She's exploring!"
"She doesn't get to put her hand on another person's things, and you also have no idea what's in my purse- are you insane?"


Cue lots of :rolleyes: from mom and remarks to those around her about how SOME people just can't stand kids.

Surprisingly, not the first time I've had a kid messing around with my purse. I have a purse with a kind of cute pattern on it (elephant and umbrella appliques on one side), and while I obviously don't care if a kid points at it or even touches the appliques on the front, it's weird when that turns into "I'm going to put my hand in there and grab things!"so....its not a crime, its "exploring"? i'll try that in court :rolleyes:

SweetPea
04-11-2012, 11:00 PM
so....its not a crime, its "exploring"? i'll try that in court :rolleyes:

Honest Judge, I was just "exploring" their house... and I was "curious" about the contents of her jewelry box... so I, uh, "borrowed" her diamond necklace because I wanted to, ummmm, "study" it...?

MTC
04-12-2012, 12:47 AM
Actually, I suspect the parents may be grateful that you did what you did. (Kudos for the way you handled the situation, too!)

Maybe you should consider selling your 'Have A Word With The Kid' services to your neighbours ;)

Doubtful they appreciated it. My point, and I'm sure all you would agree, is that I shouldn't have to. Suck it up and be a parent for Jebuses sake. The whole lot of them are taking a walk right now without leashes and Hell Boy is terrorizing the neighborhood dogs while dad is screaming at him to STOP. When I say stop boy, you stop! 3 kids and an adult screaming, all dogs barking, and their poor hapless granddad looking embarrassed as hell.

SweetPea
04-12-2012, 12:58 AM
Doubtful they appreciated it. My point, and I'm sure all you would agree, is that I shouldn't have to. Suck it up and be a parent for Jebuses sake. The whole lot of them are taking a walk right now without leashes and Hell Boy is terrorizing the neighborhood dogs while dad is screaming at him to STOP. When I say stop boy, you stop! 3 kids and an adult screaming, all dogs barking, and their poor hapless granddad looking embarrassed as hell.

Jesus H. Macy... there's a guy in my neighborhood who does that... walks his dog and grandkids with no leashes :p And I have yelled at him repeatedly to keep his kids and his dog off my lawn, and that he clearly doesn't love his dog if he just let's him wander around without a leash. His dog has run at me (!!!) and I told him that I like dog's but I don't want strange ones running at me. AND his (grand)kids walk into people's yards, pick flowers out of people's gardens, and just generally wander all over and he SAYS NOTHING!!! He basically ignores me when I say something, too. Just blank stares. At first I thought he didn't speak English, but I heard him talking to another neighbor once when I was walking to work.

Assholes. The whole lot of them.

Churumbela
04-14-2012, 10:25 PM
I have neighbors at the end of the street who just open the door and out go the children and the dogs, to play in the street. If I could figure out precisely which apartment they were coming from in what building, I'd have called Animal Control and Children's Services by now, because it's fucking ridiculous. I've nearly hit both the dogs and seen the children nearly hit by a car because they are allowed to run through the street with no supervision at all.

marci
04-18-2012, 05:25 AM
I have never hated people so much as I hate my neighbors and their children. My whole family hates them. They're like the Duggar's. When I moved away 8 years ago, they just moved in and did not have children. Now, they have about 7. I've lost track. Their house is set up exactly like mine, which has 3 bedrooms (two are very small) and one bath. I can't see them staying there when the kids get older, but I wouldn't be surprised. The children are constantly screaming (high pitched squealing) and yelling. It's obvious when they are outside. We can often hear them inside our house with the windows closed. When I sat on our front step socializing the feral cats this winter, I could actually hear them inside their house... screaming. My mother exchanged words with the mother last year after one kid was outside screaming for far too long. She told my mom to "get a grip." ;l Besides their awful children, their front and back yards are littered with toys and junk. Their rakes were left out all year long in the back yard, a flipped over sandbox, a child's shirt (!!!) and random crap. Their patio cushions are now set-up, so they're usually on the ground thrown all over.

We put up a fence 2 years ago because we no longer felt comfortable in our own backyard while they were outside. Tomorrow, the fence people are extending our fence by one panel, so we don't have to see any part of them or their mess. The funny part is that they created a garden up against our fence a few days ago, which is technically on our properly. The also started it exactly where our fence begins (gross). Well, the first panel is slightly angled towards our house, which will have to be straightened out, so we get to ruin their garden. :D Fuckers. I hope they say something tomorrow.

Also, who lets their children use their minivan as a playscape? I've seen them outside, playing inside and slamming the doors repeatedly. A few weeks ago, one was standing in the trunk while holding onto the door handle... jumping off and letting the door almost slam on him. Awesome parenting, right?

Lágnætti
04-18-2012, 06:05 AM
Marci, they sound awful. Who the hell has seven kids these days anyway (yeah, I know, irresponsible religious lunatics). I'm sure you're glad to be subsidising that kind of breeding through your taxes too! Anyway, that kind of horrible noise gets to me too, even in small amounts in public. I can't imagine having to endlessly listen to it through the walls of the house. I'd end up blasting them with the grossest, most blasphemous and nasty examples of death metal I could find or something. Screaming all the time is NOT normal. Kids shouldn't be in a state of screeching hysteria 24/7. Unless of course, they're unparented monsters who haven't been taught to behave indoors or out or given activities to occupy them in a constructive manner. I imagine they're just as awful when they're out in public as well, if they behave like that at home.

As for playing with the van like that, sounds like someone is going to be in for a nasty accident at some point. Cue more hysterical wailing, obviously. I have zero sympathy for parents who let their kids do stuff like that then act shocked when they get hurt or smushed to death.

fullofwish
04-18-2012, 10:41 PM
I could not handle all that screaming Marci. This morning I was on the bus and there was a lady a few seats away from me whose child screamed SO LOUD for about 40 minutes, before it must have screamed itself to sleep. Even with my headphones in I couldn't drown out the screeching. I have never been happier to get off a bus in my life. I swear I could feel my ovaries shrinking by the minute.

Churumbela
04-18-2012, 10:49 PM
Speaking of screaming -- there are a few kids in my neighborhood, none in my building, but there are some in the building next door. Their mother is sort of related to a co-worker of mine, and she knows who I am and that I work with her stepfather's wife. She's a complete loser. No job, just keeps having kids and basically doesn't parent them, just lets them run wild. Her eldest, a 10 year old boy, lives with his father, who took him away from the mother because she's so awful. But it's school vacation week and apparently she wanted her son here with her, so she got some friend of hers to drive her down to CT last night to pick him up. I guess the friend's truck broke down on the way back, so she apparently called her stepfather (my coworker's husband) at 3:15 in the morning to ask him to come get them. Which he did, because he felt badly about the 10 year old being stuck out there at that time of the morning. They arrived back at her house (next to mine) at about 4 am, and the 10 year old proceeds to starting running up and down the sidewalk screaming his head off. At four am! And his mother just stands there and lets him do it! I was about ready to murder someone.

marci
04-19-2012, 04:16 AM
Marci, they sound awful. Who the hell has seven kids these days anyway (yeah, I know, irresponsible religious lunatics). I'm sure you're glad to be subsidising that kind of breeding through your taxes too! Anyway, that kind of horrible noise gets to me too, even in small amounts in public. I can't imagine having to endlessly listen to it through the walls of the house. I'd end up blasting them with the grossest, most blasphemous and nasty examples of death metal I could find or something. Screaming all the time is NOT normal. Kids shouldn't be in a state of screeching hysteria 24/7. Unless of course, they're unparented monsters who haven't been taught to behave indoors or out or given activities to occupy them in a constructive manner. I imagine they're just as awful when they're out in public as well, if they behave like that at home.

As for playing with the van like that, sounds like someone is going to be in for a nasty accident at some point. Cue more hysterical wailing, obviously. I have zero sympathy for parents who let their kids do stuff like that then act shocked when they get hurt or smushed to death.

You're right - their behavior is anything but normal. There is a little boy that lives behind our house and while he makes some strange noises at times, he sounds like a normal kid playing. These kids on the other hand, they're a different breed that's for sure. We've actually joked about buying an air horn. This will be my first summer here at the house in a few years, so I'm just going to love "birthday party season" complete a with bouncy castle. All of the screeching from yesterday was due to a Slip-N-Slide. Of course, it's still on the lawn and towels were left outside overnight.

So, guess what the fence man asked today while he was installing the additional panel. "Do they run a daycare over there?" I wish I were kidding! ;l Anyways, within a few minutes of fence activity this morning, the neighbors outside pretending to be busy, only to spy. I hope they got the hint. I'd love to mail them an invoice for the $600.


I could not handle all that screaming Marci. This morning I was on the bus and there was a lady a few seats away from me whose child screamed SO LOUD for about 40 minutes, before it must have screamed itself to sleep. Even with my headphones in I couldn't drown out the screeching. I have never been happier to get off a bus in my life. I swear I could feel my ovaries shrinking by the minute.

Screaming children are the best method of birth control. If only my neighbors believed in the stuff, their good little Catholics. My family is wondering how long it is going to take for me to march over and exchange words with them. I need to research noise laws in the area. I'd love to figure out a way to creatively give them a dose of their own medicine.

Erin, that sounds like parenting at its finest. Luckily he doesn't stay with his mother often.

Becka
04-20-2012, 05:57 PM
Find out if that sound that only children can hear affects you or your family. Play it on a speaker pointed directly at their house...

Medusa
04-30-2012, 04:38 AM
so....its not a crime, its "exploring"? i'll try that in court :rolleyes:
It'll fly about as well as "I was just testing to see how you would react to having your wallet stolen."

blissgurl
04-30-2012, 09:41 PM
Screaming children make my eggs shrivel and die.

LOL! I feel the same way - it really is effective birth control! I have slight maternal instincts when I see cute babies or behaving children, but when I am around screaming kids all of that magically goes away.

Marci, I had neighbors like yours a few years ago and I don't know who screamed louder, the mother or the kids. And the thing with that family that upset me the most is the mother had a cat that she wanted to get rid of, and since we shared a basement (it was a 3 family house), she left the kitty down there without food or a litter box or anything thinking that we would just take it in. We couldn't do that though because our dog and 2 cats couldn't handle another one, and it obviously had nowhere to shit so it would shit in corners. We fed her, etc., but couldn't keep her, and one day my sister, a veterinary technician at the time, had it out with the woman and told her it was simple to just drop off the cat at an ASPCA shelter, but because it cost a little bit of money the bitch didn't do it. Her solution was to let the cat outside, in the winter, and let it fend for itself. We saw the cat for a while and tried to feed her but she wouldn't come to us and eventually she just disappeared. I hope someone took her in but will never know. People suck!

sara
05-09-2012, 08:58 PM
Find out if that sound that only children can hear affects you or your family. Play it on a speaker pointed directly at their house...

;l oh I wish I had thought of that when I lived in Halifax. My neighbours had two hellbeast children who screamed almost constantly. Their noise wasn't helped by the dad who also communicated via scream, so much so that I could hear him in his house when I was inside mine.