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andy
07-11-2010, 12:35 AM
I wonder if any of you have given any thought to what music you'd like played at your funeral.

This is something my friends and I have always talked among ourselves about - I think it's a kind of healthy way of keeping ourselves aware of our mortality. It feels like an important thing to me that I have songs that really represent my life (and who knows what that will be by then, but anyway).

So, I don't really know how to make this somewhat un-morbid, but a friend of mine hung herself a little under two weeks ago, and her funeral was a week ago today. Yeah, that sucks, but anyway. The songs they picked for her funeral really made all of us (my friends) realise that these are songs that we will always associate with her and her life, and fuck if the bitch hasn't raised the bar with what was played for her: The final song was 'I was made for loving you' by KISS, after Freebird, and 'Who Knew?' by Pink (forgive her, she was a bit of a dyke). I think it's great that these songs... in some ways are high energy and not regretful - and they fitted her character perfectly, and it's just set me to thinking about what I would want for myself.

So yeah - anyone else have any ideas what sougs or music would be what you'd want to play you out?

Corey Haim
07-11-2010, 01:08 AM
i always thought elgar's nimrod from his enigma variations was an appropriate piece.

andy
07-11-2010, 01:16 AM
Hm. That's rather... swooping. But fair enough. The only song I know I want is Lethal and Young by Hawksley Workman, the rest is pretty much undecided. One of my friends says he's having 'If you don't know me by now' which is probably the best punchline I can think of.


Lethal and Young

It's been fun destroying our bodies,
it's been great just being together.
Crash another car,
smoke another cigarette
and make love to all our favorites on the radio-
'cause we don't know how to make it go,
we were only told how to burn it down
and then skip town.
So don't look so damn tragic,
you knew this had to happen,
so don't look so damn tragic in front of your poor mother-
she brought you here and now you have to stay... to stay...
so be thankful that you're in love
and be thankful that you're in pieces
'cause, baby, it's a begger being bitten by this bug
and after all you're all young,
you're all lethal and young.

Cuddlefish
07-11-2010, 01:22 AM
Radiohead - "Pyramid Song."


There was nothing to fear, nothing to doubt

Or that little Animaniacs goodbye song that goes, "We're so sad we've no more time together / just to drop an anvil on your heaaaaaad / and stuff your pockets full of dynamite / Then tie you to a rhino's head!"

slayer13
07-11-2010, 01:25 AM
I've always wanted 'Naked As We Came' by Iron and Wine:


She says if I leave before you darling
Don't you waste me in the ground

Perky Compson
07-11-2010, 01:28 AM
^I always thought "Passing Afternoon" by Iron & Wine would be fitting, oddly enough. "There are times that walk from you like some passing afternoon" and all.

Cunter Fartlett
07-11-2010, 05:29 AM
This poem:


Heaven-Haven
A nun takes the veil

I have desired to go
Where springs not fail,
To fields where flies no sharp and sided hail
And a few lilies blow.

And I have asked to be
Where no storms come,
Where the green swell is in the havens dumb,
And out of the swing of the sea.



Adapted and performed by The Innocence Mission:

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=yC2oXFt_6hU

tully
07-11-2010, 05:38 AM
^
That is beautiful!

MTC
07-11-2010, 06:11 AM
I'm waiting to be scheduled for surgery so I can find out if I have cancer (true fax). Most likely not and most likely not a scary kind of cancer (define scary doctor numbnuts), but if all goes horribly wrong ....

Always Look on the Bright Side of Life - Monty Python

Because those who know me will get it.

Cunter Fartlett
07-11-2010, 03:48 PM
^
That is beautiful!


I know! I'm gonna be all "Bitches, if you ain't cryin' yet, hold on to your pews".

Then I'm going to make my mother play "happy phantom" (this is assuming I pass before she does) just to force everyone to listen to Tori Amos one last time. I mean, that's what I did in life, why not death?

Cunter Fartlett
07-11-2010, 03:49 PM
I'm waiting to be scheduled for surgery so I can find out if I have cancer (true fax). Most likely not and most likely not a scary kind of cancer (define scary doctor numbnuts), but if all goes horribly wrong ....

Always Look on the Bright Side of Life - Monty Python

Because those who know me will get it.

Oh man! Sorry to hear that. What are they thinking it may be, if you don't mind sharing? I hope all goes well for you!

Octopussy
07-11-2010, 03:57 PM
probably Burzum "Lost Wisdom" or Diamanda Galas covering "Dark End of the Street".

MTC
07-11-2010, 04:19 PM
Oh man! Sorry to hear that. What are they thinking it may be, if you don't mind sharing? I hope all goes well for you!

Breast cancer.

SisterDew
07-11-2010, 04:24 PM
i would like songs that move me, for instance:
ara batur by sigur ros and/or tornado by jonsi
eskimo by damian rice
turbine womb by soap&skin

(my first post at the new forumz. i chose a happy topic ;) )

wout
07-11-2010, 04:30 PM
^ about time you showed up ;)

Anyhoo:


http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=FDw3CyOmj20

If those last lyrics don't do it, nothing will...


When the dark wood fell before me
And all the paths were overgrown
When the priests of pride say there is no other way
I tilled the sorrows of stone

I did not believe because I could not see
Though you came to me in the night
When the dawn seemed forever lost
You showed me your love in the light of the stars

Cast your eyes on the ocean
Cast your soul to the sea
When the dark night seems endless
Please remember me

Then the mountain rose before me
By the deep well of desire
From the fountain of forgiveness
Beyond the ice and the fire

Cast your eyes on the ocean
Cast your soul to the sea
When the dark night seems endless
Please remember me

Though we share this humble path, alone
How fragile is the heart
Oh give these clay feet wings to fly
To touch the face of the stars

Breathe life into this feeble heart
Lift this mortal veil of fear
Take these crumbled hopes, etched with tears
We'll rise above these earthly cares

Cast your eyes on the ocean
Cast your soul to the sea
When the dark night seems endless
Please remember me...

SisterDew
07-11-2010, 04:52 PM
^ about time you showed up ;)


yeah, i am a bit slow... :p

i miss the dutchie forum though :(

Watercolorstain
07-11-2010, 08:23 PM
You're gonna die soon (Sarah Silverman)
Not dying today (Tori Amos)
Bring me to life (Evanescence)

For the lulz

on a more serious note:


I know! I'm gonna be all "Bitches, if you ain't cryin' yet, hold on to your pews".

Then I'm going to make my mother play "happy phantom" (this is assuming I pass before she does) just to force everyone to listen to Tori Amos one last time. I mean, that's what I did in life, why not death?

Yep happy phantom was my first choice too, maybe pretty good year. I would also like:

Both sides now (Joni Mitchell)
Night of the living dead (Julia Marcell)
Thank you (Alanis Morissette)
See the sun (Dido)

Regina Phalange
07-11-2010, 08:44 PM
I'm not very subtle, so I'd probably go for the obvious.

1000 oceans
Beautiful Life by Charlotte Martin
In My Life - The Beatles

When a family member died, I literally did not cry the entire time until I was finally alone for 5 minutes and 1000 oceans popped up on my iPod and I bawled for the firs t time.

sara
07-11-2010, 09:46 PM
I've had this conversation with a few people over the years, and I've always said that I'd want this (http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=z9wH-NIKJTg&feature=related) played at my funeral.

andy
07-11-2010, 10:17 PM
Then I'm going [...] to force everyone to listen to Tori Amos one last time. I mean, that's what I did in life, why not death?

This.

Whappo
07-12-2010, 12:36 AM
This!

http://soundcloud.com/kidwave/talking-heads-this-must-be-the-place-naive-melody

I don't know. It's my favourite. Someone will be assigned to dance with a standing lamp.

If I off myself, I'll go for Why's Light Leaves. Deep, man! Also, inbuilt applause and whooping.

lacuna
07-12-2010, 12:56 AM
I kinda want what my grandpa had at his funeral, a dixie land jazz band. It was incredible. I was six at the time, but it's what I remember the most, more than the sadness of him dying.

ebby
07-12-2010, 01:00 AM
Pish. I'm gonna all music nerdy and have stuff like this (jump to about 0:55secs in) :


http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=iTV6F3lTU7o#t=1m00s

It's just so fucking beautiful, especially those high notes on the final "remember me"..

toriMODE
07-12-2010, 01:07 AM
I used to say Tori Amos - Merman. Now I'm thinking Depeche Mode - Insight.

JustPat
07-12-2010, 03:38 PM
Breast cancer.

Well, I am your expert on that subect. (Stage IV for me)

xo

other pete
07-12-2010, 03:46 PM
"Thoughts", I think.

HumptyDumpty
07-12-2010, 10:38 PM
Actually, it's interesting because I made a funeral playlist a while ago and have been adding to it every time I hear a new song I think I'd like played. Maybe it's morbid, but I think it's reasonable to plan ahead. You never know, and God forbid you're stuck with someone else deciding what's played.

Here are a few major ones:

Garlands - Tori Amos (I would also like this played at my Wedding)
Sleeps With Butterflies - Tori Amos
Indian Summer - Tori Amos
Blue - Angie Hart
Blackdown - Patrick Wolf
Satellite - Dave Matthews Band
Baby Blue - Dave Matthews Band
A Place Called Home - Kim Richey
That's The Way - Led Zeppelin


Pretty much anything from Loreena Mckennitt's "Book Of Secrets" or "An Ancient Muse".... I know someone else posted Dante's Prayer, and I agree 100%

Jessy
07-12-2010, 10:57 PM
two kate bush songs for sure!

under the ivy
and dream of sheep

Maeby
07-13-2010, 03:04 AM
I know! I'm gonna be all "Bitches, if you ain't cryin' yet, hold on to your pews".

Then I'm going to make my mother play "happy phantom" (this is assuming I pass before she does) just to force everyone to listen to Tori Amos one last time. I mean, that's what I did in life, why not death?

LOVE it! Just the song I would pick.

Maeby
07-13-2010, 03:15 AM
I had to pick a song to play along with a video montage of old photographs of my dad. I chose Otis Redding's "Sittin' On the Dock of the Bay". My dad would always whistle along with the song and was one of our favorites. Everyone at the funeral loved it.

entropy
07-13-2010, 12:29 PM
I really like this

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=4Jcva7I19ZY

entropy
07-13-2010, 04:17 PM
And this song came on my iPod while running this morning. I thought of this thread. It sums up my life rather well actually.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=DmusJsDb94c

blank-ette
07-13-2010, 04:31 PM
Beautiful Peace by the Murmurs

"Fly away
Where a new world waits for you
Always look back though
Not to cry, and not to regret
Just to help whose left behind

Help us all to heal and understand
Because we don't know why you had to leave
I can only guess it was time for you to be free

To ascend to a broader more wonderful life than this

I believe you're in a better place now
A place where only beautiful souls will hold you

Be sure to comfort and protect your children
They need you now
Stand behind them
Rise within them
And love them"

other pete
07-16-2010, 11:40 AM
Maybe it should be like that Facebook list thing where you press shuffle on your ipod/generic portable music device and then, say: 1 is as they file in; 2 is after the speaking; 3 is for the burning/lowering?

Caught A Lite Sneeze / No Good Advice / The Diaries of Tony Benn episode 5

Not bad.

MrQuin
07-16-2010, 12:32 PM
Kate Bush: And Dream Of Sheep

Whappo
07-16-2010, 12:45 PM
Oh, using Pete's method, mine would be:

Bruce Springsteen - Santa Claus Is Coming To Town
Sufjan Stevens - Marching Band
Girls Aloud - Miss You Bow Wow

Fab.

other pete
07-16-2010, 02:25 PM
^ I'm coming!


ETA: To your funeral.

Cunter Fartlett
07-16-2010, 02:39 PM
In that case:

Bridges and Balloons-Joanna Newsom
Raspberry Swirl (Scarlet Spectrum Feels)- Tori Amos
The Best Is Yet To Come- Patty Griffin


eh, it's no girls aloud, but more interesting than my original choice!

Whappo
07-16-2010, 03:46 PM
^ I'm coming!


ETA: To your funeral.
I'm glad you clarified that you weren't sexually harassing me but are instead harmlessly awaiting my death. Party down!

Lathan
07-16-2010, 04:00 PM
My "Shuffle And Croak!" playlist:

1. Belle & Sebastian - Sukie In The Graveyard (fer rill OMG!!!)
2. The Bird & The Bee - Preparedness
3. Erasure - The Long Goodbye (AAAAAHHHHH!)

Cunter Fartlett
07-16-2010, 04:09 PM
OMG! How ominously foreboding!

tully
07-16-2010, 06:00 PM
Let's see ...

1) Tori Amos, "Cloud on My Tongue" (TVAB live)

2) Fiona Apple, "Better Version of Me"

3) Led Zeppelin, "Black Dog" (haaaaaaaaaaaaaaa!)

entropy
07-16-2010, 06:57 PM
1. Kalemba (wegue wegue) ~Buraka Som Sistema

2. 18 Wheeler ~P!nk

3. Selling the Drama ~Live

The Quiet Storm
07-16-2010, 09:02 PM
Ack, I had written a lil list, but managed to copy paste a youtube url over it. (TW*T!) So yeah, my question was, Is there a limit of songs one is allowed to play at a funeral/cremation? Cuz i would love for people just to listen to music during my cremation, without any sad talks! (The music would tear jerk anyways!)

But yeah: I dont have many songs in my itunes just now as I reformatted the computer recently. So I randomised my youtube playlists.. har har

1.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=4Owsxxv5f-E

2.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=6tDjfVvRiz4

3.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=8ex7NFDXQoo

tully
07-17-2010, 06:32 AM
Cremations are usually several hours long, and the only one who attends is generally the funeral director, so I don't think anyone's gonna really be there for yours (or mine). Or I guess you COULD and go nuts with the playlist.

eurotrash
07-17-2010, 07:24 AM
I want a cremation, then rum punch memorial, followed by burial via SCUBA, so this playlist is entirely unpractical. But I like the game so much, I'm going to play anyway.

1. Dancing Queen - ABBA
2. Back in Black - ACDC
3. Baker, Baker - Tori

Hmm... interesting and not entirely unfitting, considering my life. Shit, now maybe I have to revise my plan so I can include some audio.

other pete
07-17-2010, 11:54 AM
"Baker Baker" during the actual burning is the kind of set list choice Tori would approve of :)

beKa
07-18-2010, 06:27 PM
Dear lord, I've never given the idea any thought. I suppose off the top of my head I might like this (http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=GmFp0I8AZqw), but that might not go over well. I might like the idea of leaving it up to someone that knows me well, but then I'd have to risk a huge error in judgment and end up with Hall & Oates played.

When my dad died we did Andrea Bocelli's "Time To Say Goodbye" because he loved that song and it seemed fitting (a tearjerker for sure), and then at the last minute I added in Annie Lennox's "Into The West" in, because he was a LOTR fan and in the months before he passed, he watched The Return of the King over and over again. I can't listen it it today without tearing up so I always skip past it on the Ipod.


Lay down,
your sweet and weary head.
Night is falling.
You have come to journey’s end.

Sleep now, and dream
of the ones who came before.
They are calling,
from across a distant shore.

Why do you weep?
What are these tears upon your face?
Soon you will see.
All of your fears will pass away.
Safe in my arms,
you’re only sleeping.

What can you see,
on the horizon?
Why do the white gulls call?
Across the sea,
a pale moon rises.
The ships have come,
to carry you home.

And all will turn,
to silver glass.
A light on the water.
All souls pass.

Hope fades,
Into the world of night.
Through shadows falling,
Out of memory and time.

Don’t say,
We have come now to the end.
White shores are calling.
You and I will meet again.
And you’ll be here in my arms,
Just sleeping.

What can you see,
on the horizon?
Why do the white gulls call?
Across the sea,
a pale moon rises.
The ships have come,
to carry you home.

And all will turn,
to silver glass.
A light on the water.
Grey ships pass
Into the West.


AHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH

Becka
07-18-2010, 10:31 PM
^Into the West is actually both something my husband and I have said we wanted played at our funerals.

beKa
07-20-2010, 05:51 PM
Yeah, it's a beautiful song! I don't blame you. The lyrics are so perfect.

lacuna
07-21-2010, 03:49 AM
May It Be would be a good song for a funeral too.

howieD
07-21-2010, 10:42 PM
kate - This Woman's Work
tori - Thank You

or the theme song from Alex Proyas' GarageDays -


http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=0JRLzT_uVWs

Alan
07-21-2010, 10:50 PM
"If You Don't Know Me By Now".

Ha.

Barbarella
07-22-2010, 01:22 AM
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=EylyhEziLhk&feature=related

MTC
07-28-2010, 04:04 AM
update - surgery went well. results to follow. perhaps friday.

The Seaward
07-29-2010, 01:46 PM
many wonderful songs have already been mentioned.

here's one that's been on my list since i first heard it ages ago.


dante's prayer - loreena mckennitt

When the dark wood fell before me
And all the paths were overgrown
When the priests of pride say there is no other way
I tilled the sorrows of stone

I did not believe because I could not see
Though you came to me in the night
When the dawn seemed forever lost
You showed me your love in the light of the stars

Cast your eyes on the ocean
Cast your soul to the sea
When the dark night seems endless
Please remember me

Then the mountain rose before me
By the deep well of desire
From the fountain of forgiveness
Beyond the ice and fire

Cast your eyes on the ocean
Cast your soul to the sea
When the dark night seems endless
Please remember me

Though we share this humble path, alone
How fragile is the heart
Oh give these clay feet wings to fly
To touch the face of the stars

Breathe life into this feeble heart
Lift this mortal veil of fear
Take these crumbled hopes, etched with tears
We'll rise above these earthly cares

Cast your eyes on the ocean
Cast your soul to the sea
When the dark night seems endless
Please remember me
Please remember me



also, r.e.m.'s "at my most beautiful" was played at my friend jessica's funeral a few years ago. she was a pretty hardcore r.e.m. fan (as was i) and we had made a funeral song list for fun when we were in high school. (it was natural causes, fyi. she didn't see it coming, and wasn't 'getting things in order', so to speak. just thought that should be made clear.) we played it as she requested, and it worked quite beautifully in the big cathedral.

MTC
07-31-2010, 05:20 AM
Okay. So my pathology results came back and it turns out I indeed HAD cancer. They think they got it all with the biopsy but won't know for sure for a couple of weeks after yet another mammogram and an MRI. Not a easy to treat kind of cancer either, but a particularly nasty one that was fortunately in it's early stages. I'm not sure if I should celebrate or what, but I do know I need a drink.

Rabih
07-31-2010, 08:18 AM
I'm surprise Wout hasn't mentioned this, but Peter Gabriel's I Grieve
There's nothing else in the world that is as sad and uplifting as this.


http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=bbItz_NAIEs

Barbarella
07-31-2010, 02:41 PM
^ I looooooooooooooooove that song.

SoulQuake
08-13-2010, 04:17 PM
My grandmother passed away on Wednesday. My grandfather gave me a list of songs he wanted me to put together on a CD for her memorial, and I wanted to share them here because I think it's a lovely list. She was big into musicals, so that's the reason for several of the choices.

1 Til There was You (from The Music Man)
2 If I Loved You (from Carousel)
3 Memories - Barbra Streisand
4 The Way We Were - Barbra Streisand
5 Something Wonderful (from The King and I)
6 Yesterday - The Beatles
7 A Time For Us - Andy Williams
8 The Song is Ended ( but the melody lingers on) - Ella Fitzgerald
9 You Are Always in My Heart - Vera Lynn
10 Somewhere in Time - John Barry
11 Time to say Goodbye -Andrea Bocelli

For myself, I would have to pick "What Me Worry?" by St. Vincent. Which would be very ironic considering if there is one thing I'm good at, it's worrying, but I like the sentiment of the song.

anj
08-14-2010, 03:36 AM
for the longest time i wanted "spirit in the sky" (too expected?) to be blasted out of the hearse on the way to the cemetery (windows down, on repeat, for as long as it takes to get there).

now i'm leaning towards "do you realize?" by the flaming lips to be played sometime during the actual ceremony. but then again, i have always wanted one of those new orleans-y funerals, with the horse-drawn glass cart thingy carrying the casket with the dixieland band following behind.

[[dance]]

wout
08-14-2010, 06:58 AM
I'm surprise Wout hasn't mentioned this, but Peter Gabriel's I Grieve

;)
As much as I adore the song, the second half is maybe a bit too uplifting melody-wise for me. I want to have them crying all the way!!!
But yes, great choice. I also always thought Skye Blue would be great, especially the ending.

ThomasKinkade
08-26-2010, 10:30 AM
i don't think i've ever been to a funeral where they played a song that the person requested

is it just some myth

because if it's not i'd really like to force some aaliyah into my mourner's ears

wout
08-26-2010, 10:35 AM
You haven't?
I think it's pretty standard that they play music the person requested...

ThomasKinkade
08-26-2010, 10:54 AM
then again i haven't been to any funerals since i was 10........

wout
08-26-2010, 11:50 AM
Count your blessings, eh?